AS-SIRAAT AL-MUSTAQEEM

Hadith

ATTRACTION

Attraction is natural - the idea is what you do with that attraction determines the type of person you are.
 
Romantic love frowned upon in Islam.
 
Another Hadith; she could not stand her husband and he was totally in love; she gave a garden back and got Khula.
 
The husband crying and following her and begging to take him back; so the Prophet asked her to him back; begging her to be her husband; the Prophet then told him to get a grip on yourself; the Prophet says how amazing the power of love has but did not approve it. 
 
What you do with the attraction depends on your Taqwa! 
 
The bravest decision - live in a world with dynamics - choices and need to make decision; need to consult others and make decisions - it may be a bad decision. We do this process more than once; we still do the choices and select.
 
More importantly, a decision that changes the life and an example is: Khadijah (first wife of Prophet) - when she had to make a decision of a person to work for her; she had the option to select anyone! She had heard about Prophet (SAW) who was not a Prophet; manners and honesty; then she selected him to be her husband! She was wealthy and was a wise woman and rejected the others; then the most bravest decision and reverted to Islam! The first Muslimah after the Prophet (SAW); she knew the consequences and she took the opportunity and got the title (Founder of Islam) she realized that this was the Truth; an example of a woman and then many other people started taking brave decisions. 
 
Abu Bakr Saddique - father of Aisha (wife of the Prophet (SAW). He contributed everything to a fundraising charity. A very brave decision - he didn\\\'t leave anything except ALLAH (SWT) and the Prophet (SAW) who is the Messenger! ALLAH (SWT) provides sustenance. 
 
Khalid Ibn bin Waleed - stepped down from a leadership and became an ordinary soldier.
 
Male and female is the most fundamental relationship; can\\\'t have children and or other relations.
 
Male and female relationship dictates the shape of the society. Also, shapes the capacity of resistance; oppression; marginalized; slavery; reflects on the family; eventually family starts with male and female relationship. Happy couples make a strong families and nations. 
 
Love is how female and male relationship; make choices; personal factors : personality; perception; whether economic status define the roles of others! Men work and women collect eater and come back. In Africa - women go and get the water. Men are lazy - generally even when men are not working they expect women to do all the work!
 
What does TV do? Erroneous ideas and some are good; like Islamic programmes! 
 
Success of women - beauty definition set by media and sells definition and success is of material things; so it dictates men watch TV and woman submissive; subservient; for pleasure and men\\\'s trophy! 
 
So, in a Muslim society use these ideas- the most quoted Hadith is wife goes to sleep and husband needs her and mainly abused!!! So, religion used and misused and ALLAH (SWT) knows the intimate matters of the heart, so who\\\'s side will the Angels be?
 
Looking for a wife and must be fair skinned! Beauty is in colour! So racist in origin! Very disgraceful! 
 
So people quote another Hadith; woman to make a sajood to their husband! 
 
Capitalism - it\\\'s about money and it assigns to people virtues that they don\\\'t have. So, they look at how much money they have and rich and poor marriages do not work. Socio - economic status! 
 
Sexism - assign value on the basis of gender - if man and woman assigned to the same job but the man will get a better a salary! 
 
These are non-personal factors. Burglars come - people assume it was a man. 
 
2,200 Hadiths narrated - scholar of the scholars! This enabled her to pass knowledge down.

Tuesday 03 Dec 2024